Let's talk about the engagement to wedding day time frame.
This handsome guy got down on one knee last May, so we've been engaged for a solid year now.
Photo Creds: Todd Wilson Images
The biggest question that I recently get is.. " How's the wedding planning going"? I'm all like "maddening!". Don't get me wrong, It's a good maddening. But it's still maddening. There are a million little details that swirl in your head.. all day long... It makes me so very happy that in just over 3 months it will be here, but lord it's a lot of emails and deposits and decisions.. Ohh My!!!
Did you know that when Huffington Post asked engaged couples if they at one point during the planning process said " let's go elope!!".. 76% said YES. Which makes me chuckle because I think I've mentioned this a few times to Kyle in the past few months.
I was talking to a client of mine that has a super short engagement, and asked her what challenges she's faced being on a short timeline verses having a long engagement.
Photo Creds: Todd Wilson Images
The Short Engagement:
1.The pros.. You get to marry your best friend quicker! yay!!!
2.You aren't shelling out money monthly for three different bridal magazines per month for a year.
3. Once a decision is made, it's done.
You do not have the luxury of seeing things on Pinterest and then changing your mind. Which is great because Pinterest temps us Bride's daily to changing our elegant themed wedding into a circus side show themed one. Seriously. Pinterest is the devil sometimes.
4. You stick to your budget better.
With a small time frame, you know you have XX amount of dollars to spend. The long time frame can put you in this " we have time to pay on this, or save for that" mentality.
5. Your wedding details do not take up your life for a year to a year and a half. You can get on with your life and not agonize over the flickering candles being ivory or white.
Did you know that 47% of Brides spend 1-9 hour a week on wedding planning?
40% of brides spend 10-15 hours a week!
1. Your favorite vendors and venues will be harder to secure. Most vendors book a year out, if not more.
2. You have to pay for everything so much quicker. It's a little easier to plop down a bunch of deposits knowing that you have a year to pay them off. A short engagement pretty much means " pay it all now.."
The Long Engagement:
Photo Creds: Todd Wilson Images
1. All of your vendors/venues should be available for you to scoop up.
2. You have a long time to space "to-do's" out, so that you aren't trying to accomplish everything all at once.
3.You can relish in the " Let me introduce you to my fiancé" glow.
You'll be married and a Mrs. forever. This is your time to be a fiancé.
4. You get to let ideas sink in and develop. You'll probably change them a million times, but that's a good thing. You have the time.
1. A year or more of your life is devoted to wedding planning.
I can honestly tell you at the one year mark, my brain is frying . I've been having wedding day nightmares and it seems like a part time job that you aren't getting paid for. Better yet, you are paying for it.
2.You have time to make changes.. WAIT wasn't this a Pro??? Umm yes. It's both. I told you!!! Pinterest is the devil!
The advice I have to give to all Brides and Grooms would be. Enjoy every aspect, every choice, every decision. Whether it is a long or short engagement, it is such a short time period of pure chaos.
Photo Creds: Todd Wilson Images
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A few months ago I decided to separate my office space from my studio space. I believe this was THE best decision I have ever made. It has made me way more productive and able to focus on the separate tasks that my business entails. I shared my Office Space a few weeks ago. Now it's time to share my studio space.
We had an unused portion of the basement that was just collecting stuff. I did have my art supplies down there, but it really felt more like a storage space. I cannot think of one thing that I created in this space. It was not very inspiring!
Here is a " before" picture. I was in the process of sorting and major clean out, so the "before" photo is extra messy !
The owners before us painted the basement floor this crimson red. I was planning on painting over it. The more I thought about it though, I make a mess of this floor with paints and inks and glue. Leaving it "as is" meant not having to spend money on paint or spend time on painting it. Plus I would've been super mad if I got the NEW painted floor all messy. So, Red it stays!!!!
Here are the AFTER photos: Welcome to my studio space......
I added curtains behind the ceiling beam to separate the space from the rest of the basement.
I sorted and purged so many old and "past their prime" supplies.
I made a huge canvas of my favorite photo of Kyle and me to add to the back wall.
I color coded my paints and ink pads.. Everything looks better in rainbow order.
* If anyone is interested in me making one for them, I have three available to customize for you*
Seeing that I'm a day behind on everything this week. It's fitting that I am posting Wedding Wednesday on Thursday. I've started a new category " Wedding Wednesday - Our Day" Which focuses on aspects of our upcoming wedding.
Although I am planning on keeping a lot of our wedding plans under wraps, I figured I'd share a few projects now and then.
Today I'm sharing my "Something Blue". I've always loved when Bride's wear blue shoes for their wedding. Seeing that light blue/teal is my favorite color.. I was so going to do this. As I was looking for the perfect pair of blue heels. I found this pair of watercolor heels that had blue splattered in. Ummm...We are getting married at an art gallery. So that's perfect!!!
I found them at Payless.. Yes, you heard me... Payless. They are super comfortable and just so darn pretty!!!!
I decided on painting the soles which proved difficult because there is raised writing on the bottoms. At first I was going to paint "I Do", but I decided on something different.
This Mother's Day weekend was wonderful.
Katie had a late afternoon soccer game. She scored a goal and assisted in another. Yay Katie!!!!
Last weekend Kyle and I celebrated our 5 year anniversary.
One year ago there was a beautiful ring presented to me at Sakonnet Vineyard.
This year we went back to Sakonnet and spent the afternoon in our favorite spot.
I thought this wedding Wednesday I would focus on us! There wouldn't be a "Wedding Wednesday" if there wasn't a bride and groom right?
I know I may gush a lot about Kyle and my relationship. I'm telling you five years later, we've earned the right to bask in the glow a bit.
We've hit highs and lows. We've seen each other's best and worst sides. Early on in our relationship, we even split up for a bit. That point in our lives showed us that being apart isn't an option that either of us wanted. We are connected.
Through it all ,our bond remained. A great relationship isn't always easy. There are laughs, tears, worries, sorries and love. A love that's meant to be humbles you.
The biggest thing is to not give up on each other. Ever.
I cannot imagine life with out him.
He is my best friend.
When we first moved into our home, I loved the open loft space on the second level. I immediately wanted it as my office space. For the past few years I haven't had curtains up and I've also had my easel in the space.
It became quite apparent that as long as my computer was in the same spot as my art space, I would not get any art completed. I would be dragged away to emailing and photo editing and cat videos ... you get the picture.
I decided that I need a dedicated office. I relocated all Art supplies downstairs. I'll be sharing that space soon!
I've been eyeing this mid century piece of furniture since November at a local flea market store. They were asking $90.00 I offered $40 because It's been there so long. They said YES!!!
I was planning on painting it a coral color, but once in the space, I liked the wood. Yay! one less project!
I made the curtains out of sheets. . I'm telling you, that is the easiest and cheapest way to make curtains. Then I hung them... ( well ... Kyle hung them..)
Next, I streamlined the whole space... aka goodbye clutter...
Thanks for visiting the spot that I spend most of my time at...
Next I'll be sharing my studio space. Where I am the other 1/2 of the time! :)
This is going in the "Wedding Wednesday" AND "Project" section.
I keep admiring those cute "Bride" and "Groom" luggage tags that the stores are peddling.
I just couldn't bring myself to spend a bunch of money on luggage tags that will really not make sense after you go on your honeymoon.
Enter Michael's Craft Store dollar section. I found These cute leather tags for $3.00 each.
I liked that you had to physically take the address portion out of the slipcover. I'm not a fan of my address and personal info just out there for all to see.
A white paint pen worked perfect for the " bride" and "groom". I had that on hand, so it was free to me!!!
Our honeymoon travel tags cost a whopping $6.00 !
Not getting married but know someone who is? Wouldn't these be cute personalized for the bride and groom? You can include all them in a gift bundle with all kinds of travel goodies like sunscreen and airplane size novelties. Plus the bride will LOVE seeing her new name on the tag! Believe me.. seeing it written out made me giddy.
This weekend was jammed packed with goodness.
Friday Kyle and I went to The Providence Art Club for a dish tasting.
We arrived in Providence a tad too early, so we grabbed mocha latte's at a local cafe.
Umm .. yeah.. they were heaven!
Next we walked up to our venue. The head coordinator, Seb, brought us for another tour of our space, answered my million questions and treated us to a sit down four course meal with our dish choices. It was a perfect two hours. The wedding planning stress all floated away ( for a few precious hours). It was a magical day.
Friday night was family movie night.. "Woman in Black 2" was the choice. I hid under the blanket the whole time.
Saturday Katie had a soccer game and scored a goal! I was sad that I missed it, I was setting up Mac and Keshia's baby shower!!
It was a beautiful shower with so many family and friends and lot of diapers!!!!!!
We can't wait to meet the little angel.
Sunday we decompressed and were relishing in the fact that 5 months from the day, was OUR big day.