I thought I’d celebrate Wedding Wednesday with a little insight into a few things Wedding.
Photographing countless weddings for 10 years and now recently planning my own wedding, I’ve come up with a few things that I know to be true.
1. Be Selfish!
Okay, now I’m not telling you to be the diva demanding a $10,000.00 wedding gown. What I mean by “selfish” is that this is YOU and YOUR favorite person’s wedding! It’s about you.
If you want rainbow colored My Little Pony’s as centerpieces, by all means DO IT! Who cares if your grandma thinks it’s tacky? I promise you ... you will LOVE that you planned your wedding how YOU wanted it, not how Pinterest wants it, not how your mom wants it or how trends of 2014 wants it.
If you plan your wedding through someone else’s eyes, you will not be happy when your “ best day ever” is over.
The more personal you are the more intimate your event will be. You are spending thousands ( let’s be honest.. 10’s of thousands) on this wedding . Have the darn ponies!
Your guests will talk forever about the My Little Pony centerpieces.
2.Ask opinions but don’t rely on them
This mimics #1 a bit.
Case in point.
Recently I chose 7 invitation samples from Wedding Paper Divas. I’m planning on doing half manufactured invites and half DIY. I’ve been completely obsessed with the invite process for the past month. When I say “obsessed” I mean up all night and early mornings researching, contacting local artists and being crazy bridezilla about it.
Invitations are important to me because I love paper. My family knows that I have a paper addiction. Something that may not mean that much to most couples, means a lot to me.
Also, I’m planning on framing the invitation suite to display in our home. I want the invites to look cool because I don’t want something lame or trendy showcased on my walls and passed down to other people for decades to come. I give thanks to my grandma for this amazing idea. Here is my grandmother and grandfather’s wedding invitation transformed by my grandmother into an art piece.
SO back to the rule! I displayed the invite samples on the kitchen counter for family members to choose. I knew in my head the one that I wanted. They all chose differently.
One family member said that the ones that I preferred looked teenish, one like a magazine ad and that one looked like someone threw up on it.
She texted me later saying that she hoped she didn’t offend me.
You know what? She didn’t! It’s OK that she has her own opinion and that it doesn’t match mine. I liked the feedback and saw where some of her points of view made sense. I’m not choosing the throw up one, especially after she said that’s what it looked like.
Does that change my choice? No .. It does not. Because like rule #1 says, it’s between Kyle and I. It’s our wedding.. our way...
Same goes for wedding dress shopping.
Keep your entourage low people.
I loved my entourage, I’m glad I kept it low, but even low numbers give feedback that may not be “you”. I tried on around 50 -60 dresses. If one person loved it, the other one hated it. Every.. single .. time... I wasn’t sold on many of them and I wanted everyone to love it.
Here is my face in one that was almost “the” dress. Look at my face? Does this say “ I’m saying yes to the dress!!!”.. Not a chance
You should not have to convince yourself when you find the dress.
When I tried on “THE” dress I was saying “yes” to it before I walked out of the fitting room. I said to the consultant” I don’t care what anyone else says.. this is my dress!!!”.
I’m pretty sure I said this while I was walking out in it as well, this way nobody could say anything bad about it . I knew.
Here is my face in my dress.
Now, if I went with other opinions I could’ve ended up with the first dress and have the first dress face. Don’t settle. Your dress will find you. Stay true to yourself.
Bring your whole wedding party to your fitting, when the decision is already made.
3.When you make a decision. STOP LOOKING!
When you choose anything for your wedding,be done with it and move on. In our world we have a million options. Just like when you find your perfect guy, you stop looking. This goes for the dress, the invites, the DJ everything.
Check it off your list and move on. You made the decisions you made because they are perfect for you, your wedding theme and your budget. Trust your decisions and move to the next decision. There will always be the new line of dresses announced and this spectacular music band that you didn’t know about. Your choices are made, stop obsessing, it will drive you crazy!!
I recently had a battle with myself over place cards. I made my decision on how I want to display the seating chart, yet I kept pinning place card ideas on Pinterest. For the love of god, I made my decision. Stop and move on !!! Stop the insanity.
4. Last but not least. Skip the cake. 90 % of it doesn’t get eaten. Your venue will also charge a cutting fee that will equal around $200.00 or more!
I would rather have $200 in the bank than to pay someone to cut a cake. I personally want that job. I would love to go to various venues and cut cakes for $200 a pop.
Of course you want a small cake to cut and shove in your loved ones face, but opt for cupcakes or a dessert bar for your guests instead of the 5 or 7 tier thousand dollar cake. It does not get eaten, people are partying at this time. It’s a waste of perfectly good and EXPENSIVE cake.
Don't forget to have fun , stick to your budget and enjoy this crazy planning process :) .